A guy was stranded on a desert island with Heidi Klum. Initially, he played it cool, not making any moves on her for several weeks. Finally, he asked her if they could start a physical relationship, so as to attend to each other’s needs. Heidi was game, and a very nice sexual relationship began. After several months, the guy approached Heidi and said, “I have a problem…It’s kind of a guy thing, but I need to ask you a favor.” Heidi replied, “Okay,” to which he asked, “Can I borrow your eyebrow pencil?” Heidi looked at him in confusion, but obliged. The guy then asked, “Do you mind if I use the eyebrow pencil to draw a mustache on you?” Heidi was growing worried, but again obliged, so the guy drew a mustache on her. Then the guy said, “Can you wear some of my clothes? I need for you to look more like a man.” Heidi was becoming disappointed at this point, but hesitantly put on his clothes. Finally, the guy said to Heidi, “Do you mind if I call you Phil?” Heidi had now become very dejected, and said “No, I guess not, you can call me Phil.” So, the guy reached out and grabbed Heidi by the arms and shouted “Phil, you won’t believe who I have been sleeping with!”

Q: submitted by Jack

I've been able to "score" with women often enough, and at times the "hunt and conquest" has been exciting, but frankly the satisfaction is usually short-lived, and then I feel disinterested and kind of empty. Do I need therapy?

A:
Frankly, an attitude adjustment wouldn't hurt you at all. Authentic, deep satisfaction comes from authentic, deep intimacy, which does not result from hunt and conquest. Intimacy develops with trust; trust develops with vulnerability and with revealing yourself -- your fears as well as your strengths. Trust also develops with loving, respecting, and honoring your partner, demonstrating that through actions of caring and kindness and through listening with interest not with agendas. By the way, nearly every woman I've polled feels that not being sincerely listened to is a major turn-off. Although there is nothing wrong with getting some strings free poontang. Let me know how it works out for you!

-JD