submited by: Pablo
I have had serious problems with getting blow jobs for a while now. It seems that every time I get one it feels amazing, but after a certain point my whole body begins to tingle and my penis becomes numb and loses its hardness. I have no idea what is wrong, and it really turns off my girlfriend because she feels like she is doing something wrong. It’s not her though, because it happens anytime a girl gives me a blow job. What’s wrong with me? Why do I tingle all over and lose hardness?
Since you report having this problem with every woman who performs oral sex on you, we can rule out telling your girlfriend that she’s bad at doing the deed. That being said, one major issue that some men have during sex is with anxiety. If you have body image issues or are embarrassed by your penis size, you’re less likely to maintain an erection during a sexual act that centers around that part of your body. Also, keep in mind that the majority of sexual dysfunctions are related to psychology. In other words, if you keep telling yourself that you become flaccid during oral sex, you will continue to become flaccid during oral sex. The remedy? Try switching up the routine a bit; perhaps she can start by using her hands and you can show her specific strokes you’d like her to use. Applying some lube might also increase sensation and heighten your sense of pleasure. As for the actual act of oral sex, don’t be shy in communicating with your partner how you’d like her to stimulate you. Communication is key to solving your problem.