Hey Doc JD,

Q: submitted by Dillon

I been w/ this girl for about a month or so right. She doesnt like goin down or anything so she decided that we should skip right to the sex. The catch is that she was a virgin...so the first time i start hittin it and she just about dies because she's in so much pain. So i stop. Two weeks later, i try again and this time she looks like she's in even more pain, crying and everything. I can't get her to relax and she's just so damn tight, it feels like heaven for me but hell for her. How can I get it loosened up some or at least get her to not be so damn nervous?

A:
this happens to a lot of girls and usually all it takes is some time before their mind and vagina "loosen up." unless a girl has been ramming down an 8 inch dildo for the past few months her first few times are likely to be painful. usually the only thing a girl has put in there on a regular basis is a tampon..so unless your dong has the girth of a tampon the girl is going to be in some pain. BUT what do i always say? every problem has a solution. even though she doesn't blow you now doesn't mean you can not give her some oral pleasure. she might not go down on you now but i promise you as soon as you start making her cum she will be sucking on your cod piece like nothing (sidebar: don't get what you want in bed? make your girl cum over and over and you'll be getting head, backdoor and rim jobs until the cows come home). to get the ball rolling i would start out with a good twenty minutes of clit tickling. really get her pussy wet and tingling. after this get on top of her and slowly slip your dick in. rest your body on top of her but support yourself enough so that you are not like some dead whale on top of her. tease the entrance of her pussy with just about an inch of your dick for five to ten minutes. now go in about an inch further..and again tease for about 5 minutes. repeat this until you are all the way in. now here is the key...this girl is new to the game and if you start ramming away it is going to hurt her like hell. keep a nice firm pressure against her clit with your pubic bone. no slowly go in and out about a quarter of an inch and as you are coming in gently rub against and upwards on her clit with your pubic bone. keep the pace to her breathing..a girl needs to build up to an orgasm (of course there is a time and a place for a quick hard slam but this is not one of them) so don't start off like a jack hammer. also when you are flush to her clit flex your dick a little so that it pulses inside her. keep this up for awhile and she'll be cumming before you now it. hope this helps! oh yeah, remember this girl gave something special to you..respect that.

-JD