A guy walks into a bar in Alabama and orders a white wine. “You’re not from around here, are you, bud?” says the bartender. “No,” replies the guy. “I’m actually from Boston.” “Whatcha do up in that fancy Boston?” asks the bartender. “I’m a taxidermist.” “What the heck’s a taxidermist?” “I mount dead animals.” “It’s OK, boys,” announces the bartender. “He’s one of us!”

Q: submitted by D

For the past nine months my boyfriend and I have enjoyed a wonderful sexual relationship. I am 43 years old, and until I met this man I did not know what an orgasm was, but now that has changed dramatically. He has always been able to bring me to multiple orgasms. We have experimented with sex aids and have found them extremely pleasurable. Now that we have added vibrators to our lovemaking, my multiple orgasms have turned into one long, continuous, intense orgasm lasting ten to 15 minutes, or as long as my boyfriend continues stimulating me. It does not let up until my boyfriend penetrates me for one final peak. Is it normal to have orgasms that last this long?

A:
Well first off congrats on discovering the joys of an orgasm! You have to make up for some lost time but i think your b/f is doing a great job on helping you. ;-) I'm sure many women, that have never had an orgasm, will find this story comforting. Just be patient and find the right person that you can relax and be comfortable with. The long orgasms you are experiencing are completely normal and made possible by the nature of the orgasm/excitation stages for a woman. When a woman gets excited, blood flows into the vulva area, and the pressure of that blood on nerve endings is part of what makes for great sexual tension. This blood stays in the woman’s genital area even after she has had an orgasm, and, as a result, it’s not that hard to quickly "reignite the fire". Where as in a male the blood leaves the penis and needs time before it can become erect again. You are lucky enough to be experiencing almost tantric-style orgasms where the body and mind become one and an orgasm can last as long as you want it to. You should feel very lucky...many woman and couples practive forever trying to reach the orgasmic level that you are reaching! ;-)

-JD